Don’t worry. It’s WONDERFUL! We ‘2 or more children Moms’ can tell you it’s not all honky dory, but the ups are many many more than the downs. A couple of years ago, having your first child after 30 was a risk. Now the average age at birth of first child in Canada is just 30. In South America and the Caribbean this drops to about 22 years old. What is interesting, however, is the fact that these averages seem to get higher every 10 years!

Anyway, that horrible derogatory term “geriatric pregnancy” is now a thing of the past. We are having kids at all ages . And we are having more than one or two!!

 Challenges

Sometimes, we became Moms of 2 a little later than expected. Maybe there is a 4 or 5 year wait before the second one. Or we do it another way and have two quickly one after the other with the thought that soon we will have another?  Whatever the sequence, the outcome is two or more children.
There are many challenges from money to culture to changes in relationships and on and on. So why should you join this awesome club?

We love the joys and I want to share with you features of Moms in this club that maybe, just maybe, you might need a reminder.

Joys

Birthing

For some strange reason Moms seem to recover from giving birth. It doesn’t matter if it is cesarean or natural, induced or on time. Once that head shows up……That sense of giving birth is definitely straight from our Maker.
Like some mothers I had to remain in bed for quite a while after the birth of my first child. It didn’t matter. All I knew I was now a mother and had a serious responsibility which ONLY I could perform.

Keeping your shape

I don’t know how prepared you were for the first child, but it’s a great preparation for those that follow. Our bodies look different. It amazes me how many people say how beautiful the woman looks when she is pregnant. Seriously. There’s an awesome glow in the skin and many of us manage to keep in fearsome good humor even after throwing up.

Rihanna’s recent pregnancy and Naomi Osakas ‘ present pregnancy continue to get full coverage from so many angles. When you look at their pictures, it is obvious that the fashion world is ready for this special time of your life so get out there and live it.

BTW, have you seen the art of getting a belly cast of your pregnant state?  The images used in this post all come from https://www.wildwoodbirthpdx.com/pregnant-belly-casting  I included belly casting as there are times when we want to remember that particular pregnancy. The point is both persons in the relationship look for something special to keep the event unique.

The studies tell us that as the  mother-to-be is well taken care of i.e nutrition, expressions of affection, showing that you understand the situation, she feels more happy and shows less instances of depression and or anxiety. Her feelings about herself become and remain more positive than before.  

Children love children

I am one of those who feels that having more than one child gives them the chance to develop social graces. Remember when the eldest made it clear that she was the eldest and John had better get it clear that what she said carried WEIGHT.

 “Do not put the knife in the socket for the bulb”
Why not?
Because I say so and I know that you will DIE.
Oh That’s what you say”

Lilly(Mom) smiled to herself. I hope he is scared enough not to put the knife in the socket, she thought.

The point is both children have learnt about relationships. They have also learnt that it doesn’t matter whether you are a boy or a girl, seniority counts.  As a Mom, you feel great as you see your kids taking on responsibilities even when you weren’t there.

Making Friends

Ever noticed that they make friends at school quickly? I guess the new faces do not faze them a bit, and they treat the other kids just like they would at home. Besides if they are all in the same school, they have someone to look out for them.
Those holidays like Halloween and Easter, always work better when your kids can all go out together. Safety is a big factor.

You and your Partner

All the studies nowadays point to kids bringing a new feeling into the relationship. Both of you grow in the sight of the other. Men take on new roles as father and seem more willing to help mother keep her house in order. Frequently, serious disciplining becomes “well let’s wait until your father comes and see what he thinks”. A statement like that often makes reconciliation and negotiation much more pleasant as no one wants to wait until “he” comes.

Moms don’t forget your partner when you are pregnant. Both of you need to realize this is, at least, a two person event however you reached there. Making time for intimacy still rules. So keep the positives flowing. Talk a lot and talk about your feelings. It was a pretty close act that got you here.

Specialized skills

Finally as the kids grow older, Moms in this club soon notice that they learn special skills. You learn how to simplify things, not only in words but also finding the simplest and quickest way to do everything.

You learn how to manage money and control all the resources you need for an efficient household.

You learn the fine art of compromise. It’s not always as you think it shoud be. But somehow compromise steps in and you make all the sides of the story fit into the solution YOU see necessary. It’s a fine art and top-of-the list skill.

Kids……The future belongs to them!!!!